Remembering Tadeusz

 

My good friend Tadeusz Przystojecki from Grodzka Gate Theater NN in Lublin, Poland passed away in February. Tadeusz was a historian, archivist, genealogist and I will remember him as a kind and generous soul who was passionate about piecing together the stories of our murdered families. In 2017, he introduced me to my ancestral home, Lublin, and to my family's history. Tadeusz was 40 years old and died of pancreatic cancer.

I am grateful we met in person. The first time, in 2017, when Jon and I traveled to the Lubliner Reunion - a gathering of 200+ descendants from Lublin's former Jewish community hosted by Grodzka Gate Theater. And the second time, in 2019, when I met his colleague and friend Jackie Schwarz in Antwerp, Belgium and then together, visited Lublin once again. 

Tadeusz taught me much about Lublin's history. A few years ago, I asked him to recommend books about the interwar years (between WW1 and WW2) and the Holocaust. He suggested Bloodlands: Europe Between Hitler and Stalin, On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century by Timothy Snyder and East West Street: On the Origins of Genocide and Crimes Against Humanity by Philippe Sands. Tadeusz also recommended Neighbors, by Jan Gross a book about the murder of Jews by their neighbors in Jedwabne, Poland. Tadeusz died on the day Ukraine was invaded by its neighbor, Russia, on February 24.

Tadeusz not only taught me about Lublin's history, but also about the city today and introduced me to his colleagues and friends who also dedicate their lives to helping others. I hear from them that they are working very hard to support the refugees from Ukraine. I can't imagine what it's like there now. I recall traveling with Tadeusz and a group of friends and researchers in 2019 to the city of Przemysl and the village of Rybotycze in Southeast Poland very near the Ukraine border. The beautifully restored train station in Przemsyl is now one of the major depots where thousands of Ukrainian refugees arrive daily. I am not surprised that this talented and extraordinary group has welcomed refugees to Poland, just as they welcomed so many of us, descendants of Jewish Lubliners. 

When remembering Tadeusz, someone described him as a “mench,” the Yiddish word for “a good person, a person with the qualities one would hope for in a friend or trusted colleague.” He was the best of us. May his memory be a blessing.

 

Tadeusz presented my family's history at the Lubliner Reunion

Our mini-reunion in 2019, Tadeusz helped me coordinate a 'thank you' dinner

In the village of Rybotycze, meeting Henik, who renovated the Jewish cemetery, with his wife Hanna and friend Margaret

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Touring Grodzka Gate Theater NN in Lublin

At the train station in Przemysl

A Gift From My Mother

My mother wanted to go to college, but the war broke out and she went to work instead. She was intelligent and curious and probably would have enjoyed a long career, if times were different. But, she loved us fiercely and was dedicated to her family.⁣
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She grew up knowing her parents left Lublin and their families forever and suffered the pain of losing them in the Holocaust. My mother never forgot her grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins and in 1990 sent testimonials to Yad Vashem Archives, hoping someone would contact her with information about them.⁣
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Five years after my mother passed away, my brother and I were contacted by researchers who found those testimonials and who eventually found us. I've written about this extraordinary experience and my travels to Europe to learn more about my family.⁣
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So on Mother’s Day, I thank my mom for her gift. 💓🌹

Visiting Rybotyzce

We visited Rybotyzce, Poland last May to meet Jackie’s friends who help maintain the village’s historic Jewish cemetery. Joining Robert, Inge, Jackie and myself were researchers from Grodzka Gate Theater NN, Teresa, Tadeusz and Monika. We were warmly welcomed by Margaret, a retired English teacher from Krakow, Gienek and Hania Bakalus and Martin and Magda and their three children. Jackie has been travelling to the village regularly for the past 10 years.

Gienek Bakalus, center, restored and maintains the Jewish Cemetery in Rybotyzce

Martin, Magda and family prepared a lovely dinner for us

Rybotyzce is a small village “shtetl” in Southeastern Poland, near the Ukraine border. Before the war, 314 Jewish people lived in the village, about 25% of the population. Today, only a few hundred people live in Rybotyzce, with no Jewish families among them. Jackie’s grandparents (father’s side) were both born in Rybotyzce. Her father was born in Dobromil a few kms away and in present day Ukraine. He left his home and family before the war.

The village’s Jewish cemetery, built in the late 1800s, was vandalized during the war. A few years ago, the only known Holocaust survivor from the village, Mojżesz Rab-Rubinfeld, along with the families of Rachel Salik-Gans from Paris and Harold Schwarz all with family roots from Rybotycze, helped to restore the cemetery. In 2008 a marble monument was erected in honor of the Jews from Rybotycze at the entrance to the cemetery. A plaque was placed on it: "To commemorate the murdered Jews of the town of Rybotycze, who died in martyrdom at the hands of Nazi torturers in the years 1939-1945. Families: Rachel Salik, Harold Schwartz, and Mojżesz Rab-Rubinfeld."


In 2013, about 50 of the gravestones, “matzevot” were repaired and set upright, a fence, landscaping were added. Gienek Bakalus and students of the School of Ecological and Agribusiness of Eastern State College in Przemyjżl, implemented the restoration project, 'One God - Three Religions.'

The fence and the pre-burial house were completely demolished during the war. The cemetery was littered and used as a pasture. The cemetery plot became the property of the Bircza Forest District.

Many of the 1,500 Jewish cemeteries in Poland were destroyed by the Nazis in WW2. Those that remained were neglected during the Russian occupation. Although many of the tombstones have been removed or destroyed, Jewish Law dictates that the earth covering the grave in a Jewish cemetery belongs to the deceased and human remains are to be undisturbed. The soul suffers when a grave is disturbed. It is the sacred responsibility of every Jew to preserve Jewish cemeteries. Besides the moral obligation to maintain the cemetery, there is also a great deal of cultural, economic and political history.

Efforts to rebuild Jewish cemeteries in Europe, have sparked interest from local communities and communities around the world. The small Jewish population cannot maintain them all.

Gienek Bakalus received the “Preserving Memory” Award for his work in preserving, promoting and caring for Jewish culture and heritage in Poland by the Michael H. Traison Fund for Poland, in 2018.

Through the Gates of Hell

The site of Majdanek, the former Nazi concentration camp, is a massive, windswept stretch of land that was eerily quiet the day I visited. At the entrance, The Monument of Struggle and Martyrdom brings tension and fear to visitors as if the artist, Holocaust survivor, Wiktor Tołkin, wanted visitors to feel emotions similar to those of the victims entering in cattle trucks 78 years ago. The walls and steps leading to the six-figured memorial has been interpreted as a comparison to the gates of hell.

Majdanek Concentration Camp was built by the Nazis in 1941, as a labor camp for Russian prisoners of war on the outskirts of Lublin, Poland. As Germany's plans to exterminate Poland's Jews were implemented, Majdanek became a death camp for tens of thousands of Jews and Poles and other prisoners from more than 30 countries throughout Europe. 

On a cold and blustery day last May, Robert, Inge and I traveled from Lublin's Old Town to Majdanek State Memorial and Museum, 30 minutes away. The camp covers almost 700 acres and is partially preserved with more than 70 buildings. During the war, it was surrounded by an electrified, barbed-wire double fence and included 280 buildings and 19 watchtowers. A double security fence remains today.

As I toured the buildings and read each exhibit describing the methodical slaughter of millions of innocent people, I tried to absorb the ultimate betrayal of humanity that took place here and throughout the world. History revealed that as the war rampaged, knowledge of the atrocities toward European Jews became known throughout Allied countries and yet, were met with indifference.

A pathway, the Route of Homage and Memory, leads from the site of the original watch tower to the mausoleum at the south end of the former camp. A huge dome covers a mound of ashes of some of the victims and is inscribed, “Let our fate be a warning to you.”

I don’t know where each Krymholc family member perished in the Holocaust, however, for some, it could have been at Majdanek. After the large ghetto in Lublin was liquidated in March and April 1942, those who were able to work received J-Ausweis or work permits and sent to Majdan Tatarski, a suburb close to Majdanek, that served as a smaller ghetto. At one point, more than 8,000 Jews lived in the Majdan Tatarski ghetto. Within a few months, residents were executed in nearby Krepiec Forest, died in the ghetto or deported to other camps. Most were sent to Majdanek.

Grodzka Gate researchers discovered a list from the Majdan Tatarski ghetto that includes names of family members Hersz, Jakub, Maria, Mordechaj Krymholc. My great grandmother, Sura Matla Krymholc, has a line drawn through her name and a small cross to signify her death in the ghetto.

Return to Lublin

After six days exploring my family history in Antwerp, Jackie and I returned to Lublin. Inge Schoups, director of research at Felix Archives in Antwerp, traveled with us for her first visit to Poland.

We were welcomed by Tadeusz and Małgorzata, Lublin-Antwerp Project researchers from Grodzka Gate Theater, their colleagues Monika, Teresa, Agnieszka and Agata, the team who helped organize the 2017 reunion. Robert Krochmalik, a fellow descendant, came all the way from Australia to join us and kindly (an bravely) drove us around Lublin and then to Rybotycze and Przemyśl in Southeastern Poland.

Three years ago, when I embarked on this journey, I hadn’t anticipated the friendships I would make with generous, interesting, dedicated researchers, historians and fellow descendants from around the world! Here we are at our ‘mini reunion’ dinner. So many ‘thank yous’ to go around. 

From left around the table: Teresa Klimowicz, Małgorzata (Gosia) Miłkowska, Agata Radkowska-Parka, Monika Tarajko, Tadeusz Przystojecki, Inge Schoups, Agnieszka Wiśniewska, me, Robert Krochmalik, Jackie Schwarz

Monika Malec, from Lublin Radio, was unable to join us for dinner, so she came to the airport before we returned to Antwerp! Monika produced a story about my family in 2017 and graciously translated the broadcast transcript to English. See Our Story in the News

Since 1992, Grodzka Gate Theater has become a center of cultural activities focusing on piecing together Lublin's Jewish history. Lubliner descendants and visitors from around the world stream through the exhibits and hallways of this renovated medieval building in Old Town.

Tadeusz, Inge and I view the scale model of Lublin’s Old Town and the Jewish Quarter before WWII.

Robert, Inge and Tadeusz view one of the thousands of records collected for Project Lublin 43 Thousand, that aims to reconstruct the lives of 43,000 Jewish residents who perished in WWII.

Robert's mother was from Lublin and his father from Otwock, near Warsaw. After surviving the war, they met in Otwock, were married in Lodz, where they lived for about a year and then moved to a Displaced Persons Camp in Backnang, Germany where Robert was born in 1948. When Robert was 18 months old, the family immigrated to Australia. Robert returned to Poland in June 2019 to participate in a recognition ceremony for the family who hid his father during the war. View Robert’s testimony.

You never know who you will meet on Grodzka Street in Old Town! In front of Grodzka Gate Theater we saw Rose Lipszyic who was visiting from Toronto, Canada. Rose and her aunt, Judy Josephs were born in Lublin and survived the war working in a German labor camp posing as Polish-Catholic girls. Read Rose's story of survival.

Just a few years apart in age, Rose and Judy, with more than 30 family members, returned to Lublin for the first time to attend the Lubliner Reunion in 2017. This year, Rose and three of her granddaughters traveled from Toronto, Canada to record their story for Canadian television. The broadcast is scheduled for November on the History Channel.

Rose Lipszyic returned to Lublin, where she was born, with three of her granddaughters

I enjoyed meeting fellow Lubliner descendants Reli and Tzvika Shulman, who were visiting from Israel. Reli and Tzvika lead the Lublin Jewish Organization in Israel that publishes, "Kol Lublin," its annual magazine. The Shulmans attended the reunion in 2017 with 14 family members from Israel, America, Sweden and Canada. Afterward, they initiated the idea of the Lubliners for Lublin program where Lubliner descendants share their knowledge and expertise through workshops at Grodzka Gate Theater. See Lubliners for Lublin.

From left, Inge Schoups, Tzvika and Reli Shulman enjoying a beautiful day in Lublin's Old Town

This second visit to Lublin deepened my understanding of where my grandparents came from and the difficulty of their journey to the United States. I'm appreciative of the magic of the Lubliner reunion that connected us to our history and to each other. Thank you for welcoming me back!

Walking in their Footsteps in Antwerp

While in Antwerp last May, I visited the neighborhood where the Krymholc family had lived and tried to imagine what they experienced as they arrived in a new country. After a long and difficult journey by train, my grandmother and her two young children, Ita and David, arrived at Antwerp's Central Station, November 13, 1921. The Central Station was the point of entry for thousands of Jewish immigrants arriving from Eastern Europe.

Just steps away from the station was the Jewish Quarter, where many immigrants stayed in crowded hotels for several weeks or months until they could board a ship to America. Watch the video, Arrival at Central Station from the Red Star Line Museum, to see actual footage from the same time period.

Central Station, Antwerp

Immigrants staying in Antwerp beyond just a few weeks were required to register with the police department. I saw my family's registration documents at the Felix Archives. From these documents, friend and researcher Jackie Schwarz, prepared a detailed list of the five residences where family members had lived from 1920-1937 (two addresses no longer exist).

Pesa (Pola) and her children lived in a private residence at Plantin en Moretuslei 96 in the Jewish Quarter from November 1921 until February 1922, when they boarded the SS Minnedosa at the Port of Antwerp to continue their journey to the United States.

Pesa and children lived at Plantin en Moretuslei 96, 1921-1922

As I stood in the doorway to record this video, I thought of my 22 year-old grandmother with her two small children, in a new country, preparing to leave her family and Europe forever. When I heard chanting from a nearby synagogue, I imagined the crowded Jewish neighborhood one hundred years ago with immigrants from all over Eastern Europe who were also awaiting their voyage to North America.

I learned that my grandfather, Szol, who arrived in Antwerp the year before Pesa, in April 1920, lived at Korte Kievitstraat 12 in a second floor room rented from Mrs. Cohen. He left for the United States sometime before April 1921. Pesa's father, my great grandfather, Abraham, also arrived in 1920, gave his address as Plantin en Moretuslei 96. I assume Abraham continued to live at this address when my grandmother and her children arrived the following year. Abraham listed his next address at Van Immerseelstraat 37, where he lived from March to December 1923, and Plantin en Moretuslei 32 in December 1923.

Abraham listed his address at Van Immerseelstraat 37, March to December 1923

Sura Matel, my great grandmother, and her young son, Mordechai Ber, arrived in Antwerp in 1926. However, both my great grandfather and great grandmother returned to Lublin before 1930. I wondered why my great grandfather lived in Antwerp for ten years during the 1920s. Was he able to make a better living there as a tailor? Was he also preparing for his family to immigrate to the United States? Why did they return to Lublin?

 Plantin en Moretuslei 32 in December 1923 (now a bike shop)

Pesa's brother, Chaim, arrived in Antwerp in 1926, and also worked as a tailor. Chaim married Rachela Blat from Lublin in 1927. They had three children, Moise, Sarah and David. Documents show they lived at Bleekhofstraat 40 and Simonsstraat 6 in the Jewish Quarter until 1937. 

Bleekhofstraat 40, Chaim, Rachela Krymholc & children,1931-37

Simonsstraat 6, Chaim, Rachela Krymholc & children, 1937

In May 1939, relatives Fanny and Benny Sembler came from America to visit Krymholc families in Antwerp and Lublin. Although Chaim and Rachela are shown in this 1939 photo (below), their address at that time was not included in the file at the Felix Archives. We do know, however, from his letter to my grandmother, Chaim and his family fled Antwerp before 1941 (likely after Nazi occupation of Belgium beginning in May 1940) for Frankfurt and then Saint Affrique, France. In her research, Jackie found documents of their capture and deportation to Auschwitz in 1942. See From Lublin to Antwerp

Jackie and I visited Stadspark in central Antwerp, where this 1939 photo was likely taken.

1939 photo of Krymholc family and visitors, likely taken in Stadspark

Photo on the left ( l to r):  Benny Sembler, Rachela Blat Krymholc, Fanny Sembler, Chaim Krymholc

Photo on right (front row, l to r)  Mrs. Mendell , Mrs. Stuger, Fanny, Chaim, Mr. Mendell 

(back row,  l to r), Mrs. Rubenstein, Rachel, Benny, Mrs. Rubenstein. We do not know the relationship between the Krymholc family and Mrs. Mendell, Mrs. Stuger and Mrs. Rubenstein. 

Back of the postcard listing the names of those pictured.

Spending precious time in Antwerp, I felt honored and fortunate to walk in the footsteps of my family and connect their names and images from photographs to places where they were happy and hopeful.